therapy with durva

Essays & Reflections

Articles

Writing from the practice

Longer pieces on what comes up in the room, which includes belonging, loneliness, friendship, and the families we build on purpose.

A Series

Chosen Family

What it means to build family on purpose, and what it costs when the one you were born into cannot hold you.

  1. What is a chosen family? Termed by anthropologist Kath Weston in her book Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship (1991), a chosen family is a group of people who consciously choose to love and support one another, regardless of marriage or blood relationship. Start here 5 min read
  2. Queer Loneliness Loneliness is a common feeling, but everyone’s experiences of loneliness are different and unique to them. 2 min read
  3. Queer Friendships For individuals within the queer community, friendships are a crucial source of relationships. 2 min read
  4. Conflict within Biological family and chosen family No family is perfect. 2 min read
  5. Radical love within chosen family People in recovery have often burned bridges with their biological families. 3 min read

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